The Ultimate Guide for How to Propose
Detailed Steps for Planning a Perfect Surprise Minnesota Proposal
Popping the question is one of the most exciting and nerve-wracking moments of your life. It’s the start of a new chapter, filled with love, commitment, and big plans for the future. Whether you’re dreaming of an elaborate gesture or a quiet, intimate moment, a well-thought-out proposal ensures it’s unforgettable.
At Adler Ranch in Alexandria, MN, we’ve had the privilege of hosting countless couples during their engagement photo sessions and wedding celebrations, giving us unique insight into what makes these moments truly special. From choosing the perfect ring (or not!) to finding the right words, this guide will walk you through every step need to help you learn how to propose and to help you create a proposal that’s as unique as your love story.
Finalize Your Decision and Be Confident
Before diving into the details of planning your proposal, take a moment to reflect. Are you ready to learn how to propose and take this exciting step and commit to a lifetime together? This first step is all about being sure—about your decision, your readiness, and your partner being the one you want to share your forever with. Some soul-searching goes a long way here, and it’s worth considering how you knew it was time to propose. Everyone’s journey is different, and your story is what makes this moment truly yours.
Luke & Lindsey’s beautiful rings on their wedding day at Adler Ranch Wedding Venue! Abby Dahlberg Photography
Decide on a Ring… or Not
When it comes to proposing, tradition often leans toward picking out a ring—but that’s not a rule set in stone. Some couples, like Lindsay and Luke, rewrite the script entirely. Luke proposed to Lindsay using a zip tie as a placeholder, turning a simple moment into a deeply personal and memorable one. Read more about their beautiful Adler Ranch wedding. Whether you enjoy the excitement of ring shopping together or surprise your partner with a carefully chosen band, the key is making it meaningful to your story. A proposal isn’t about the jewelry—it’s about the love behind it.
Detail photo at Adler Ranch Wedding Venue located two hours from Minneapolis MN and Fargo ND. Type and Timber Photography
How to Propose: Plan a Meaningful Moment
Before we get to the photos, let’s talk proposals. Whether you’re going for an elaborate setup or an intimate gesture, planning is key.
Find the Right Location: Think of a place that holds meaning for you both—maybe where you had your first date, shared a special memory, or discovered your favorite spot. Minnesota offers countless picturesque settings for a heartfelt proposal, from serene lakesides to scenic parks.
Choose the Timing: Sunset proposals, seasonal backdrops, or even a significant date can make the moment feel extra special.
When: The Date and Time Matter
Once you’ve decided how and where to propose, the next big piece is deciding when. Timing is everything, and it’s worth considering if your partner has shared any preferences—like a love for fall or a dream of a snowy winter proposal. Keep in mind, this moment is about both of you, so choose a time that feels special and meaningful to your relationship.
Think about the details: Is there a specific day that holds significance? Maybe an anniversary or a time of day that sets the perfect mood? And don’t forget to factor in the “how”—sometimes the setting or style of your proposal will naturally guide the best time to make it happen.
Cordel & Alyssa enjoying a dance in front of the Adler Ranch Gas Station, one of two wedding party getting ready suites at Adler Ranch, Minnesota Wedding Venue Middle Sister Photography
Make Arrangements for the Proposal
Once you’ve laid the foundation of your decision to propose, it’ll be time to start building up from there. This is actually quite intuitive, but can be a little stressful. Let’s break it down:
Bring it all together
Wedding detail photography on a 100 year old railroad luggage cart at Adler Ranch, Alexandria Minnesota Wedding Venue Type and Timber Photography
Before we move on to what to say when proposing, try bringing together the How, Where, and When of your specific instance of how to propose. Make sure it all looks great to you, then ask yourself how you envision your partner feeling.
Lead into Why You’re There
This is where the conversation naturally flows toward the big moment. Let your partner enjoy the moment you’ve created—whether it’s a surprise “date” or a walk down memory lane—and give space for them to talk. Respond in a way that builds up to your proposal, weaving in your shared story and your feelings.
For example:
Partner: [says anything]
You: “We’ve been talking about the future a lot. Remember when we moved in together, and I knew you were truly comfortable with me? That was the moment I realized we could handle anything together.”
It’s cheesy, sure—but it’s also real and heartfelt.
The Adler Ranch little blue truck! A great photo opportunity at Adler Ranch Minnesota Wedding Venue located two hours from Minneapolis MN and Fargo ND. Kristen Jyrkas Creative
The Big Question
Now for the main event: deciding how you’ll pop the question. Whether you stick with the classic “Will you marry me?” or go for something more personal like “I’d love it if you’d be my partner for life,” the key is to speak from the heart.
Want to go bold? Think singing, a custom sign, or even a message on a jumbotron! Whatever your style, make sure the “M word” (marry!) is part of it. Take a little time to write it out and rehearse so the words feel natural and ready to go. After all, this is the moment they’ll remember forever!
Bring your classic car to your wedding at Adler Ranch, outdoor Minnesota Wedding Venue
A few last tips:
Think about your partner’s personality, likes and dislikes and consider them with your proposal plans.
Tell your partner just enough to get them where they need to be.
Communicate with all of your co-conspirators directly, and yet….be quiet about your plans to propose. Don’t tell too many people about your plans to propose. Keep it a surprise and don’t say too much!
The Grain Bin Bar at Adler Ranch Wedding Venue located two hours from Minneapolis MN and Fargo ND
Now You’re Ready to Propose
You’ve learned how to propose and reflected on your decision, chosen a meaningful way to pop the question, and planned the perfect time and place. Whether you have a ring in hand or a creative placeholder, your proposal is ready to be as unique and special as your love story. Remember to focus on your partner, speak from the heart, and savor the moment—it’s a memory you’ll both cherish forever.
As you start envisioning your wedding day, consider Adler Ranch near Alexandria, MN, for your celebration. With its rustic charm and nontraditional elegance, Adler Ranch is a Minnesota Wedding Venue that offers a one-of-a-kind setting for couples who want a wedding as unique and unforgettable as their love. It’s the perfect place to begin your forever! Learn more about Adler Ranch, we can’t wait to meet you!
Sparkler Exit at Adler Ranch Wedding Venue, Gray McCurdy Photography
Adler Ranch is the ideal destination for couples seeking a truly unique wedding experience. Conveniently located just five miles from Alexandria, MN, in the heart of the stunning lakes area—and only two hours from both Minneapolis-St. Paul, MN, and Fargo, ND—our independently owned and family-operated venue offers the perfect blend of accessibility and seclusion.
We pride ourselves on hosting a limited number of weddings each season to ensure every couple receives personalized care and attention. Rooted in community, we support local businesses and provide an inclusive, unconventional setting that stands apart from traditional venues. When you choose Adler Ranch, you’re not just booking a venue—you’re joining our family and becoming part of the vibrant Alexandria community.
A Thank you and a shout out to these locally owned, Independent wedding venue owners who show their support each day: Bella Rosa Venue Dream Bay Resort The Admiral Room at The Marin Willow Sky Ranch Celebrations Event Center Agua Linda Farm Round Barn Farm
